Pa Alamu, popularly known as Baba nda gbe meaning (Baba who lives alone,) got married very early, at the age of 23 while Bimbo her wife was 21 years old then, two month after Alamu met the Lord trough the preaching of a man who came to share the gospel of Jesus with him.
Afterward Pa Alamu life was transformed and he no longer do what he loves to do when he was still in the world, his life was transformed totally such that his wife could not bear it any longer, because she has being affected also through his transformation because Alamu who was once rich through his dubious work, became poor after he met Christ because he returned every things he has stolen from his working place, sold part of his property to pay all his debt and even caused him to lost his job while he was undergoing his restitution.
Yet, he was happy because no restitution can hold him down from going to Heaven, because of this, Bimbo decided to divorce him, because he no longer spend for her the way he use to do, no more party and he no longer have a big job that can earn him big money as he used to.
One evening before Alamu came back from work, he searches everywhere for her wife but couldn’t find her because she has left with all her things, their marriage was just 9 months old when she left him, Alamu try all his best to get her back but all his effort were in vein.
Every moment he kept on praying for God to return her, but she will not come, three years after when he saw her wife, she has remarried, even with her second baby, Alamu cried and cried, because he doesn’t want to go against the word of God in wrong marriage.
He will not want to remarry, because her legal wife is still alive and the bible doesn’t permit him to remarry even when she’s still alive although Bimbo is going against the word of God, by divorcing him (Malachi 2:16) and also by getting married to another man which is adultery in the sight of God.
Nevertheless Alamu knew the word of God will not permit him to remarry while his wife is still alive, although he’s not under bondage of the cases of her wife who divorce her, because only her will bear the consequence in Hell for divorcing him, (1 Corinthians 7:15)
But still because of his faith, with the 2 kids, Alamu is ready to take her back, he use the Lord as his witness, that no matter what she might have done to him, he is ready to take her back and forgive all what she has done, but Bimbo refuse to yield. Five years later, Bimbo was already nursing her fifth child, while Alamu remain single and childless, but with all these, Alamu gave more time to the work of God and God used him mightily to reach many lost soul.
52 years after, Pa Alamu has become old, but still stand on his faith that he will never disobey God no matter what he may encounter in life; he believes this world is a wilderness, and he will not look after the serpents, or the Mara of the wilderness, but focus on the promised kingdom of God.
One day he was in his house then he heard a knock on his door, it was an old woman knocking at his door. Pa Alamu was shocked when the old woman introduced herself as Bimbo his wife, she came to apologies and ask for his forgiveness for all what she did to Alamu. She told him she has being looking for him for many months until she accidentally came across his old friend who gave her his address.
She told him, she has also given her life to Christ and she also want to inherit his kingdom at all cost. She added that, she never knew she has being committing adultery for divorcing him and remarrying because she has no knowledge of the word of God, but now she is back to him as his wife, because the Lord ask her to leave his false husband house and go back to his true husband, or else she will end up in Hell if she die without doing that.
Pa Alamu was shocked for he knew not what to do. But the Lord promised me not to tempt me with temptation that is beyond my capacity. What is the meaning of this injury time temptation? He asked himself, if he refused her, he will be the one divorcing and not Bimbo again, and if the rapture sound, Bimbo will be taken he will be rejected.
Now what should he do? Bimbo left him alone with all her beauty and gave it to another man, but now, she has returns back to him with a rough, old and shrink body. Bimbo left him when their marriage was still very fresh, and she took her wedding bed and vow to another man.
He never gain anything from her, although of the truth, she was his legal wife, but for many years he has being pleading with Bimbo, he has even promise to take her back, not minding anything she would had done to him, he will still take her back, even when she was already with two kids, and was still probably at 27 years old, but Bimbo is now 73 years old, she’s too old to bear him a child.
Because of Bimbo, Pa Alamu remain childless, he has no son or daughter, neither does he has any grandson or daughter that will call him grand pa! Severally, he almost commit suicide because he couldn’t control himself, but now Bimbo had returned back to him when she’s no longer useful to him
THIS IS WHAT YOU MUST UNDERSTAND
If Pa Alamu will take back Bimbo, he must take good care of her as his wife, buy clothes for her, and even put on the same attires, give her money to cook, sleep on same bed, even call her honey, sweetie, darling, and he must never hate her but love her as his wife. He must forgive her, even the little pension he’s collecting; they ought to spend it together. So this now bring us to the vital question, as a Christian what will you do, if you are pa Alamu?
THE IMPORTANT OF RESTITUTION IN MARRIAGE
Restitution is a must for every Christian who has accepted Jesus Christ into his/her life because it exonerates such individual from every accusation of the devil. It makes you free from every form of self condemnation and guilt. Hence there is always need to apply wisdom while indulging into restitution because wrong approach toward restitution has cause majority to regret of their godly action in restitution.
However you don’t have to regret because your Heavenly treasure can’t be compare with the present things of this world that passeth away. Whatsoever you will lose in this world due to restituting shall be added unto you in hundredfold eternally in Heaven.
Moreover what shall profit you to gain or amass the whole profit and luxuries of this wicked world and later be casted into Hell Fire? Mark 8:36-37 For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul? Or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?
Nevertheless, from above story we can behold the dilemma in which Pa Alamu behold himself. He is presently confused but his mind has already sealed unto Heavenly treasure because he has patiently preserved his body from yielding unto the counsel of friends and families in getting another wife.
Yet, he forbids all because he was zealously mindful of Heavenly glory. Matthew 6:20 But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:
At this moment he had cheerfully embraced his wife and also promised to live and makes Heaven with her because the pleasure things of this life such money, marriage, houses, flesh, children, honor, family and achievement will certainly melt away in twinkling of an eyes on the last day but his soul shall liveth forever.
2 Peter 3:10-13 But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. Seeing then that all these things shall be dissolved, what manner of persons ought ye to be in all holy conversation and godliness, Looking for and hasting unto the coming of the day of God, wherein the heavens being on fire shall be dissolved, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat? Nevertheless we, according to his promise, look for new heavens and a new earth, wherein dwelleth righteousness.
So, here is second question, “what is the appropriate thing to do if you behold yourself in same situation of Pa Alamu while he was undergoing his restitution.
1. As a devoted Christian who just acknowledged Christ into his/her life while your spouse still dwells outside the kingdom, it is of a necessity to indulges zealously in praying and fasting for the salvation of your life partner.
2. You must ensure you purges out every zeal in order to get him/her arrested by the Holy Ghost. Amos 3:3 “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?. It’s your responsibility to ensure that your life partner is converted. You must serve as a mentor to him/her.
When he or she become converted, it would be easy to convinced him or her of the basic needs and important of restitution. As a newly born again child of God, don’t keep glorying personally in your salvation while your wife or husband is still dancing shamefully outside the kingdom.
You must work severely to ensure he or she is converted or else, you will face the same nightmare which Pa Alamu encountered because you are not only save by Grace to make Heaven alone but rather saved to stand in the gap for your spouse and ensure both of you are fully converted.